Author: Queer Men of Color in Love

That Moment A Lonely Gay Brown Boy Learns He C…

That Moment A Lonely Gay Brown Boy Learns He Can Be Loved, Too:

queermenofcolorinlove:

eljotitodeperris:

I promised I would be more vulnerable and that I would write more this year. Here, in my first published piece of writing, I do both. 

“My isolation was not an accident. The constant fragmenting of my humanity into oppressed categories of race, skin color, gender, and sexuality made it almost impossible for me to exist as a whole human. Stereotypes of gay men and antithetical stereotypes of Latino men have made me unintelligible to a world that ignores and silences the struggles of my communities. Internalizing society’s fear and abhorrence towards gayness and Latinidad, I learned how to hate myself. The shame I internalized because of my isolation made it difficult for me to relate to other people. Without models of gay brown men being vulnerable — let alone existing — I was convinced that the only company I would ever really have was the emptiness inside me. I accepted this truth very early on in my life, and for much of my life it defined me.

We’re taught that before we can be in a relationship, we must first learn to love ourselves. But this is a nearly impossible task because for many of us, particularly queer people of color, loving ourselves is a lifelong journey. This journey to self-love is never linear. It can change every day, and some years are better than others. At what point do we become loveable: able to love and able to be loved? Are we loveable more days than others?

I was 19 when I first felt seen by someone. I shared the shame that had been crushing me since I was a boy. The weight of hundreds of hopeless nights immediately lifted as I delved deeper and deeper into my soul and for once, I wasn’t afraid. When I shared the depths of my fears with someone, I finally felt I could be loved and for the first time in my life, I was whole. When we broke up, I thought I would never be complete again. I eventually learned that my loveability came from this raw openness; and like love, my vulnerability could not expire.”

That Moment A Lonely Gay Brown Boy Learns He C…

That Moment A Lonely Gay Brown Boy Learns He Can Be Loved, Too:

queermenofcolorinlove:

eljotitodeperris:

I promised I would be more vulnerable and that I would write more this year. Here, in my first published piece of writing, I do both. 

“My isolation was not an accident. The constant fragmenting of my humanity into oppressed categories of race, skin color, gender, and sexuality made it almost impossible for me to exist as a whole human. Stereotypes of gay men and antithetical stereotypes of Latino men have made me unintelligible to a world that ignores and silences the struggles of my communities. Internalizing society’s fear and abhorrence towards gayness and Latinidad, I learned how to hate myself. The shame I internalized because of my isolation made it difficult for me to relate to other people. Without models of gay brown men being vulnerable — let alone existing — I was convinced that the only company I would ever really have was the emptiness inside me. I accepted this truth very early on in my life, and for much of my life it defined me.

We’re taught that before we can be in a relationship, we must first learn to love ourselves. But this is a nearly impossible task because for many of us, particularly queer people of color, loving ourselves is a lifelong journey. This journey to self-love is never linear. It can change every day, and some years are better than others. At what point do we become loveable: able to love and able to be loved? Are we loveable more days than others?

I was 19 when I first felt seen by someone. I shared the shame that had been crushing me since I was a boy. The weight of hundreds of hopeless nights immediately lifted as I delved deeper and deeper into my soul and for once, I wasn’t afraid. When I shared the depths of my fears with someone, I finally felt I could be loved and for the first time in my life, I was whole. When we broke up, I thought I would never be complete again. I eventually learned that my loveability came from this raw openness; and like love, my vulnerability could not expire.”

After our 40th Anniversary Celebration, we to…

After our 40th Anniversary Celebration, we took off for 2 weeks in the Cook Islands!

Follow our blog on Instagram: https://instagram.com/queermenofcolorinlove

After our 40th Anniversary Celebration, we to…

After our 40th Anniversary Celebration, we took off for 2 weeks in the Cook Islands!

Follow our blog on Instagram: https://instagram.com/queermenofcolorinlove

eljotitodeperris: Donate to help provide menta…

eljotitodeperris:

Donate to help provide mental health services to Palestinian children in Gazahttps://getinvolved.unrwausa.org/fundraiser/1885957

I’m fundraising for UNRWA USA by participating in the Gaza 5K walk/run at Prospect Park in Brooklyn, New York on Saturday, March 30, 2019.

I choose to show my solidarity with Palestinian refugees by committing myself to raise money for UNRWA’s Community Mental Health Programme. The trauma of the conflict and the stress of living under blockade, unable to leave the Gaza Strip, has left thousands of refugees, particularly children, in need of psycho-social support.

By providing counseling through UNRWA, we can support their mental health, help them cope with their traumas, and improve their quality of life. Though I know I can’t change the world for every refugee, with your support, I intend to reach as many children as possible.

If you share my commitment to bettering mental health for Palestinian refugee children, please donate to my 5K run. Proceeds will go directly to the UNRWA Community Mental Health Programme and employ CMHP counselors – refugees themselves – in the Gaza Strip.

Thank you for joining me in showing Palestinian refugees that Americans care, and for giving what you can!

eljotitodeperris: Donate to help provide menta…

eljotitodeperris:

Donate to help provide mental health services to Palestinian children in Gazahttps://getinvolved.unrwausa.org/fundraiser/1885957

I’m fundraising for UNRWA USA by participating in the Gaza 5K walk/run at Prospect Park in Brooklyn, New York on Saturday, March 30, 2019.

I choose to show my solidarity with Palestinian refugees by committing myself to raise money for UNRWA’s Community Mental Health Programme. The trauma of the conflict and the stress of living under blockade, unable to leave the Gaza Strip, has left thousands of refugees, particularly children, in need of psycho-social support.

By providing counseling through UNRWA, we can support their mental health, help them cope with their traumas, and improve their quality of life. Though I know I can’t change the world for every refugee, with your support, I intend to reach as many children as possible.

If you share my commitment to bettering mental health for Palestinian refugee children, please donate to my 5K run. Proceeds will go directly to the UNRWA Community Mental Health Programme and employ CMHP counselors – refugees themselves – in the Gaza Strip.

Thank you for joining me in showing Palestinian refugees that Americans care, and for giving what you can!

queermenofcolorinlove:Celebrating 40th Anniver…

queermenofcolorinlove:

Celebrating 40th Anniversary 

Follow our blog on instagram: https://instagram.com/queermenofcolorinlove

queermenofcolorinlove:Celebrating 40th Anniver…

queermenofcolorinlove:

Celebrating 40th Anniversary 

Follow our blog on instagram: https://instagram.com/queermenofcolorinlove

Celebrating 40th Anniversary 

Celebrating 40th Anniversary 

Celebrating 40th Anniversary 

Celebrating 40th Anniversary